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That Loving Feeling: Creating a Memorable Wedding Proposal
It's time: you're going to pop the question. A wedding
proposal should be one of the most memorable events in
both of your lives, and getting it right is a great
start to your lives as a married couple. Think about
your partner as you plan your wedding proposal - don't
worry about what you've seen on TV, or what others
have done before you... it's a personal experience
and you can custom-tailor specifically for the two of
you.
What Not to Do
Before we get to the good stuff, here are a few
"misadventures" to avoid when proposing
marriage:
- Do not trivialize the proposal. You're asking someone
if they want to spend the rest of your lives together,
not what they want to eat for dinner.
- A marriage proposal is meant to be a special and
memorable occasion for you as a couple, so don't allow
relatives or friends to invite themselves along when
you know you're going to pop the question.
- Don't propose at someone else's special occasion,
like a wedding, baby shower, etc.. First of all, it's
not polite to detract from someone else's special day.
And secondly, it's best to make a special day for just
the two of you.
- Don't put your partner on the spot, such as
proposing in public in a situation where they feel
forced to say yes (then privately say no).
Timing & Location
Many people have remarked that their marriage
proposal was less romantic than they had hoped.
Of course, the proposal makes up just a small part
of your relationship, but it's still nice to be
look back upon it with fond memories.
Talk to friends and family members of your future
spouse to get additional ideas what your partner
considers romantic. You will have some ideas as well,
but it's nice to have more feedback from people who
also know your partner well.
Ask for help in the romance department by calling
establishments in the area and asking for their
assistance. Often times they'll be willing to assist
you in creating the right mood for that special moment.
For instance, if you're think about proposing in
the Rocky Mountains,
call a local tram operator and ask for their suggestion.
They may be willing to help you arrange for a special
floral arrangement to greet your partner when you reach
the top... or create other ways of setting the mood. We
even heard of a gent who asked the tram operator if
he'd be willing to stage a false-malfunction and
stop the tram at midpoint in order for the
couple to have the perfect opportunity!
But remember, romance has no rules and can't
be planned or predicted. If the emotions are right
and the setting is perfect, popping the question
right then and there may make for an excellent
opportunity. For example, one couple was
enjoying a coastal hike on Vancouver Island
when they inadvertently got soaked from an
incoming rain storm. The rain was dripping
from the forest canopy, the wilderness sounds
were soft and the emotional timeliness was perfect.
Even though a ring wasn't available at that moment,
the question was popped and the couple announced
their engagement.
Costs
You can spend hundreds or even thousands of
dollars on setting the most romantic of moods,
but the setting depends on what you and your
spouse consider romantic. Romance isn't about
the amount of money you spend, its about connecting
emotionally with another person and making each
other feel special.
Your partner's idea of "romance" may
mean secluding yourselves in a private little cottage
by the sea, just the two of you alone with nature.
Or maybe your partner loves big sweeping gestures,
like a romantic helicopter tour to the top of a
mountain. Whatever the case may be, tailor it to
your partner's tastes.
Budget appropriately for your wedding proposal...
but remember that you'll also need to budget for the
wedding!
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